Even though there’s still a long way to go, we’ve made some great strides in same-sex marriage. If you or someone you know is planning a same-sex wedding, you might be curious about the options or differences when it comes to your invitations. Read on for tips and tricks about how to pick a design that suits you, customizing the invitations just for you and your soon-to-be spouse and everything in between.

Whose Name Goes First?

The bride’s name usually goes first for a heterosexual marriage invitation, so what are you to do if there are two brides or no brides at all? The answer is relatively simple. The bride’s name is usually listed first because her family traditionally pays for a large part of the wedding. If one of your families is helping out, you might want to list their child’s name first. If that is not a factor for you and your partner, it’s even easier! Order the names however you want, whether it be alphabetically or just in the order you think sounds best. As is the case for a heterosexual wedding invitations, if your parents are contributing at all to the cost of the wedding, they should be noted on the invitation in some way.

Should We Pick a Different Design?

While some parts of a same-sex wedding are different than a heterosexual wedding, most parts are exactly the same! With that said, you and your partner are free to decide if you want your invitation to have any nod to your sexuality. If you do, some ideas for how to integrate that into your invitation are to have a graphic of two suits or ties, a rainbow color accent or the outline of two ladies in a getaway car. The opportunities are truly endless!

Should the Request of Attendance be Different?

For all wedding invitations, you want to include some sort of call to action or message for your guests. While you can certainly use the exact same sentiment as heterosexual couples, here are some ideas that are more unique and directed slightly towards homosexual couples.

  • Invite you to share in their joy
  • Request your presence as they unite in marriage
  • Ask that you join them to witness their union
  • Happily request your company as they tie the knot
  • As they finally, become Mrs. & Mrs.
  • Cordially ask that you at last join in their special day
  • Invite you to attend their wedding
  • Express our commitment to each other

How Can We Keep it Light Hearted?

If you or your new spouse want to keep the wedding a bit more casual, the invitation is the first place where you can convey that message. Consider adding one of these phrases to your invitation itself, or as a sticker on the envelope. By lightening the mood right from the onset, you’ll also make your guests feel comfortable from the minute they receive your invitation.

  • Two Grooms Are Better Than One
  • Two Brides + Two Words – We Do!
  • Love is Love
  • Love Wins

Whether it’s two brides or two grooms, we’re sure you’ll find the perfect same-sex wedding invitation to share your wedding celebration in the best and customized way. Remember, while there are some things that are different for a same-sex wedding, most are completely the same! Try to not get too caught up in the details, and instead just bask in the happiness that is your special day!